So you want to Change Sex?




Transsexual Problems

A provocative title in these days of 'Infinite Gender Diversity,' and the barrack room lawyers will jump on the title with a dozen different views of current thinking on terminology and aetiology.

Enough 'ologies'.

Some people, want to live as the opposite sex than the one they were born and brought up with.

Luckily, in Britain at any rate, people in that situation have the chance to make a life for themselves in a new gender role.

Now, I'm not talking about people who want to be flexible, and appear one way one day, and another way the next, or those who want to create a whole new gender, just for themselves, I mean the people who actually want to fit in as a member of the opposite sex.

Now there are many thousands of people who do just that, with varying degrees of success, and acceptance.

Laws exist to protect the Rights of Gender Dysphoric people, but of course enforcing them is nigh impossible. If you tell your current Employer that you want to be a woman, there is every chance they will find a way to get rid of you, perfectly legally, for one pretext or another. I have seen this happen to people I know. I have seen how the Court system is almost impossible to gain redress from.

Now, there are also some brilliant and very positive Employers out there, so if you are thinking of changing your Gender, check out your Employer, and if in any doubt, seek out new Employment with a big firm with a good track record with Trans Employment.

But that's something to consider if changing over gender roles is what you want to do. For many people it isn't the right thing to do, and no one can tell you, what is right for you. Only you can decide what is right for yourself. If you ask a Psychiatrist for a Sex Change, you will get one, sooner or later, especially if you have money to pay for private treatment. They will give you whatever you ask for. So, you had better be sure what you ask for, is what you really want.
Sex Change Surgery is not reversable. Once a mans penis has been sliced and diced and restitched into a neovagina, it's gone. Creating a replacement is possible, but you'll be well aware that what you have is not what you started with.

So, think long and hard before having a Sex Change, or Gender reassignment. Be sure it's right for you and something you can live with for the rest of your days.

Now, it is quite possible without surgery or hormones for a man to live successfully as a woman. I know a good dozen people who have done just that. Some of them have gone on to have surgery at a later date, sometimes decades after first changing gender role.

Now, this is the thing, having surgery does not make 'a man' into 'a woman', it changes one or more parts of the body to resemble that of a woman, the rest, the mannerisms, the behaviour comes from you.
If you walk and talk like a man, all the surgery in the world, won't help you, people will see where you are coming from, and this may or may not create problems depending on where you live, and how nice the people around you are.
Where do you Socialise? What do you like to do? Will you be accepted by your old friends?
It's no good saying they have to accept me, because they don't, people find out who their friends are quickly when they Change over gender roles.
Sex.
DO you have a Sex Life? DO you enjoy your Sex life?
If you have a Sex Life that you enjoy, using your existing genitals, then my advise would be not to have a Sex Change.
It is up to you, everything is, BUT, big but, if you enjoy sex before surgery, you will find it very different after surgery.
Everyone I have spoken to about their surgical outcomes, and that's a few people, have different results. Some have Orgasms, some don't, some have Multiple Orgasms and the Best ones ever, the gal who said that was staring at my left ear, and grinning maniacally when she said it so I'm not sure about her view at all.
Any way, change is sometimes essential, but it's not always for the best. Think long and hard before doing anything irreversible, and you have plenty of time to find out what you like.















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